Prabhupāda Instructs His Disciples That Husband and Wife Equal Double Strength
In the material calculation, taking on the responsibilities of a family often diminishes a person's ability to perform full-time spiritual activities. Reversing this paradigm, proving that the gṛhastha-āśrama can actually multiply one's preaching capacity is the revolutionary empowerment Śrīla Prabhupāda gives his followers. He trains his disciples to understand that a husband and wife do not represent a burden to one another; rather, when they combine their energies without the motive of sense gratification, they equal double strength. By cooperatively opening centers, managing temples, and strictly chanting together, married couples perfectly fulfill the mission of the Supreme Lord.
The Spiritual Purpose of Marriage
A successful marriage in Kṛṣṇa consciousness has nothing to do with romantic illusion. Establishing the true foundation of the household order, strictly defining marriage as a partnership for spiritual advancement is the absolute standard Śrīla Prabhupāda sets. He instructs his disciples that the primary factor uniting a husband and wife is not bodily attraction, but the mutual, cooperative effort to help each other return to Godhead.
- A Krishna conscious marriage is not based on sense gratification but rather mutual cooperation between husband and wife for making advancement in spiritual life and also for raising Krishna conscious children.
- Husband and wife working conjointly in Krishna consciousness is the perfection of household life.
- In a Krishna conscious marriage the basic principle is for both husband and wife to serve Krishna nicely and to help the partner advance in spiritual life.
- The basic principle is that the wife will help the husband so that he may pursue Krishna consciousness, and similarly the husband will help the wife to advance in Krishna consciousness.
- They should know it that bodily relation between the husband and wife is secondary; primary factor is that both should help one another in the matter of advancement of Krsna consciousness.
Double Strength in Preaching
Historically, the dissemination of Vedic knowledge was largely reserved for those in the renounced order of life. Breaking from this tradition to aggressively spread the saṅkīrtana movement worldwide, dispatching young married couples to preach is the highly effective strategy Śrīla Prabhupāda employs. He proves that a dedicated husband and wife can travel to foreign countries, rent apartments, hold programs, and successfully establish thriving centers with double the strength of a single person.
- Formally you were alone, now you are assisted by your good wife. Husband and wife equal double strength.
- My advise is that you and your wife should preach together. But your wife doesn't like this so what can I do?
- My Spiritual Master used to send preachers who were all in the renounced order of life (sannyasis), but I am doing a completely different process - namely, preparing some young couples of husband and wife to take up this job.
- This experiment has proved very successful. I got these young boys and girls married, and they are very happily living, and husband and wife, they are preaching.
- You can remain in any apartment as husband and wife, and invite persons there to hear your chanting and topics, that is our center, and let it be gradually improved. I think this program will be very much suitable for you at the present moment.
The Duties of Husband and Wife
For a team to function perfectly, each member must fully embrace their specific role. Clarifying the authorized Vedic dynamics of the home, assigning the duties of protector and assistant is the practical guidance Śrīla Prabhupāda provides. He mandates that the husband must act as the provider and spiritual guide, protecting his wife from māyā, while the wife must faithfully assist him, creating an all-around benefit for their spiritual life.
- Treat your wife as assistant, treat your husband as your provider.
- The husband's duty is to give the wife all protection, even from the material maya, and the wife's duty is to see to the personal comforts of the husband.
- Regarding your question about the husband becoming the Spiritual Master of the wife, anyone who can give instructing in spiritual life is treated as Spiritual Master. There are two kinds of Spiritual Master, initiator and instructor.
- She should be engaged fully in assisting her husband. In this way husband and wife can work together cooperatively and make rapid advancement in Krishna consciousness.
- I am very pleased that you are serving your husband nicely and helping him so that he may advance his Krishna consciousness. When the husband advances, automatically the wife shares in his success so there is all around benefit.
Managing Temples Together
Operating a temple requires immense organization, hospitality, and steady devotion. Utilizing the natural synergy of married couples, placing husbands and wives in charge of temple management is a brilliant administrative move by Śrīla Prabhupāda. He greatly appreciates when couples work conjointly to execute Deity worship, organize routines, and generate income, noting that their combined efforts bring tremendous success to the movement.
- Both husband and wife combined together please see that the Temple service is being executed regularly and nicely, and thus make your lives happy and successful.
- I am so much obliged to you for your nice sentiments. Krishna will bless you. Both husband and wife and Karandhara husband and wife, improve temple management more and more.
- Live peacefully, husband and wife, and now you will be happy in the management of the temple. Both of you are initiated, and as it is necessary for you to work, your wife may take care of the temple in your absence.
- I think you are the most clever manager, better than your husband, because you are organizing temple routine very nicely for serving the deities and this will have very good results for everyone.
- I am so glad to learn that things are going on nicely and Krishna is giving you good income also. Please therefore manage things very nicely, both husband and wife and other assistants.
Tolerating Disagreements and Avoiding Separation
Two conditioned souls living in close quarters will inevitably experience friction. Refusing to entertain the modern western concept of divorce, demanding that couples tolerate their misunderstandings is the strict boundary Śrīla Prabhupāda enforces. He advises that marital quarrels should never be taken seriously, and that separation is entirely out of the question until the husband formally accepts the sannyāsa order of life.
- After marrying, certainly there will be some disagreement or misunderstanding between husband and wife. So consider all these points, and you can decide yourself. But if you marry, I have no objection.
- According to Vedic system, disagreement or quarrel between husband and wife should never be taken very seriously. The Vedic system therefore gives a concession for the wife to separate from her husband for some time and go to her father's house.
- Fighting between husband and wife is not to be taken very seriously. So if you have any respect for me, I request you not to quarrel with your husband. Live peacefully, chant Hare Krishna and try to serve the cause as best as possible.
- Even if there is some misunderstanding between husband and wife that should be completely neglected and you should always remain rigid in service of Krishna.
- There is no question of separation between husband and wife until the time when the husband takes sannyasa. At that time the wife cannot remain with the husband.
Peaceful Household Life in Devotion
The ultimate goal of the Kṛṣṇa consciousness movement is to create a joyful, spiritually vibrant society. By grounding couples in the fundamental practices of devotion, describing how to achieve true domestic bliss is the loving formula Śrīla Prabhupāda provides. He assures his disciples that if a husband and wife simply sit together to chant their rounds, worship the Deities, and follow the regulative principles, they will peacefully forget all artificial, material desires.
- Live blissfully and peacefully as husband and wife, and if you go on chanting 16 rounds daily, Krishna Who is within our hearts, will direct your further as to best way to advance more and more in progressive Krsna consciousness.
- Live peacefully, husband and wife, and both be engaged in Krsna consciousness. Gradually, you'll forget, both husband and wife. Don't try artificially. Artificially you'll never be successful.
- Chant Hare Krishna, both husband and wife, regularly, and worship Lord Krishna's Sri Murti, as you are doing, and try to elevate others in Krishna consciousness, which has nothing to do with academic education.
- Worship Saligram Sila nicely, husband and wife. Do not forget to follow strictly the four regulative principles and chant sixteen rounds minimum daily.
- Be an ideal couple of husband and wife in your country. Be Krishna consciousness by full cooperation of husband and wife and you be happy both in this and the next life also.
Conclusion
Marriage, when disconnected from Kṛṣṇa, is a source of deep entanglement, but when centered entirely on His service, it becomes a mighty spiritual weapon. By expertly guiding his followers to cooperate rather than compete, destroying the illusion of sense gratification is the grand success Śrīla Prabhupāda achieves with his gṛhastha disciples. He proves that a husband and wife, united in purpose and strictly following the authorized principles, possess the double strength required to completely conquer māyā and return back to Godhead.
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